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Essential Oils for Self Love

Updated: Jan 15, 2021

We put others before us. We put our jobs before our needs. We worry ourselves over what others think of us. We commit ourselves to our devices and binge-watching hours of TV. We don't make time to be out in nature, to feed our bodies with good food, or to get physical activity. We lose interest in learning new things. We don't ground ourselves through silence and meditation. Too often we forget to love on ourselves, and it's often because of certain beliefs we hold.


Putting myself first is selfish.

If I focus on me, everything around me will fall apart.

I don't deserve to be happy.

I am greedy for wanting to spend time and money on myself.

I'm not going to try because I'll probably fail.

I'm not worthy of being loved.


Do any of these beliefs resonate with you? I remember holding some of these beliefs at different times in my life. When we believe things like these, it's nearly impossible to experience joy, wellness and abundance like we were meant to. Learning about energy work and deciding to provide this service for others, I quickly learned the importance of taking care of myself and loving myself so I can be the best lightworker I can be.

Practicing Self-Love

Self-love is nourishing our minds, bodies, and spirits. It's accepting who we are, flaws and all. Self-love is being open to good things happening to us. It's being self-aware and recognizing our worth. It's feeding ourselves with goodness on all levels.

Self-love can take practice, especially if it is new to you. Essential oils are a great resource to help you along the way. They have a profound effect on our emotions and even our energy fields. These essential oil blends can help you pursue your self-love by addressing specific needs.


It's so easy to focus on our imperfections, but sometimes it isn't so easy to focus on what we like about ourselves. Re-discover your self-worth with this blend.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day or apply over heart and thymus, wrists, behind ear, or on neck and temples. Dilute if you have sensitive skin.

Contains: Coriander, Geranium, Bergamot, Frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Bitter Orange, Neroli, Grapefruit, Tangerine, Spearmint, Lemon, Blue Cypress, Davana, Kaffir Lime, Ocotea, Jasmine, Matricaria, Ylang Ylang, Blue Tansy, and Rose essential oils and Sweet Almond Oil.

acceptance essential oil blend


Anger, guilt, and resentment are blockers. These emotions block us from experiencing joy, laughter, happiness, wellness, and abundance. This blend encourages you to forgive yourself and others.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day or dilute and apply topically behind ears, on wrists, neck temples, navel, solar plexus, or heart.

Contains: Melissa, Geranium, Frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Coriander, Angelica, Lavender, Bergamot, Lemon, Ylang Ylang, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose essential oils and Sesame Seed oil.

forgiveness essential oil blend


An attitude of gratitude is often a huge component of a solid foundation for self-love and appreciation. Sometimes finding things to be thankful for can feel challenging. Use this blend to help you foster grateful thoughts.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day or dilute and apply behind ears, over heart, on wrists, base of neck, temples, or base of spine.

Contains: Balsam Canada, Frankincense, Coriander, Myrrh, Ylang Ylang, Bergamot, Northern Lights Black Spruce, Vetiver, and Geranium essential oils.

gratitude essential oil blend

Inner Child

Author and affirmation expert Louise Hay often discusses the importance of showing our love and acceptance of our inner child. Use this blend to re-connect with your authentic self.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day or dilute and apply to edge of ears, wrists, neck, or temples.

Contains: Orange, Tangerine, Ylang Ylang, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Jasmine, Lemongrass, Spruce, Bitter Orange, and Neroli essential oils.

inner child essential oil blend

Present Time

When we're focused on the past, positive or negative, it keeps us from moving forward. This blend helps us live in the here and now.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 30 minutes 3 times a day or apply to sternum and thymus area, neck, or forehead. Dilute if you have sensitive skin.

Contains: Bitter Orange, Black Spruce, and Ylang Ylang essential oils and Sweet Almond oil.

present time essential oil blend


We can't possibly control everything, and when we try to, it wreaks havoc on our emotional well-being. Use this blend to help you surrender the need to control.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day or apply to to forehead, solar plexus, ear rim, chest, or nape of neck.

Contains: Lavender, Lemon, Black Spruce, Roman Chamomile, Angelica, Mountain Savory, and Matricaria essential oils.

surrender essential oil blend


What we believe to be true will be true. The way we think and believe will affect how we feel and what we experience. Use this blend to transform negative beliefs into something more beneficial for you.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour 3 times a day.

Contains: Lemon, Peppermint, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Clary, Sacred Frankincense, Idaho Blue Spruce, Cardamom, Ocotea, and Palo Santo essential oils.

transformation essential oil blend

Trauma Life

Sometimes we experience things that are complicated for us to navigate. Use this blend for support during difficult emotional exploration.

Suggested Uses: Diffuse up to 1 hour a day or dilute and apply to bottoms of feet, chest, forehead, nape of neck, or behind ears.

Contains: Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Frankincense, Valerian, Black Spruce, Davana, Lavender, Geranium, Helichrysum, Kaffir Lime, and Rose essential oils.

trauma life essential oil blend

Using Essential Oils Safely

If this will be your first experience using the oils, shorten your diffusing time to about 10 minutes, just once a day to acclimate yourself and gradually increase to the recommended usage. Also limit yourself to applying 1 drop topically, then gradually increasing to no more than 4 drops as needed.

You can use Young Living's V-6 enhanced vegetable oil complex to dilute, or you can also use extra virgin olive oil, grapeseed oil, coconut oil, or other carrier oils. Diluting the oil will not decrease it's effectiveness. It will however reduce the chance of experiencing any skin sensitivities and will extend the life of your oils.

Some of these blends contain citrus oils that may be photosensitive. If you will be spending time in the sun, avoid applying to exposed skin or diffuse instead.

What to Expect

When you first begin using these blends, it is possible you might experience a release of emotion, like tears. This does not happen to everyone, but it can. They are simply clearing out those old beliefs to make room for something better.

Also experiment with the different suggested uses. You might find you notice more benefit from diffusing versus applying topically or the other way around. You might also find that applying topically to certain areas provides more benefit. Experiment to see which methods you prefer.

You may notice benefit immediately and sometimes it may take several days or weeks to get where you want to be. Give yourself time and patience to allow these powerful oils to go to work for you. Read When Essential Oils Don't Work

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serena james

About the Author: Serena James is a holistic healer and the author of Vibe Higher. She offers a variety of energy healing services and workshops to help individuals experience a life of love, abundance, and wellness as they were meant to.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease or illness. Any action you take as a result of this information is self-prescribed and your right to do so.


Sources: Young Living

Essential Oils Pocket Reference, 6th Edition, Life Science Publishing


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