"No matter who you are, your own inner little one is waiting for you."
-Tosha Silver from "It's Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance"
I’ve been reading Tosha Silver’s “It’s Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance” over the past few weeks. At first glance you’d think it’s about manifesting all that we desire, and while it is, it goes so much deeper than that.
It’s broken down into 8 segments and can be viewed as an 8-week course if you will. The week I am currently on is focused on the Inner Child. While I am somewhat familiar with inner child work, I really haven’t explored it too much. My childhood as far as I can remember was pretty fantastic. I have always had a loving and encouraging family who never tried to set boundaries on my dreams and desires. If I had an idea, my family has (and still is) always been supportive.
Over the last few days I’ve contemplated what it could possibly be I need to address to support my inner child. I’ve received numerous angel messages and even had a duck stop by my office to let me know I have emotions that need to be dealt with, not denied. One instance that kept popping into my head was when a former boyfriend told me nobody liked me. He had gotten out of a long-term relationship when our relationship began, and it didn’t go over well with many people on the outside. He had never experienced so much hatred from people that once were considered friends. Under the pressure, he felt the need to let me know no one liked me.
When I finally sat down to contemplate this, instance after instance kept popping up. As a 2nd grader, I was hated by my “friend” group, and my t-ball team would clear the bench if I sat down. As a 3rd grader, I was hated with girls even screaming “50 feet” because I had gotten to close to them. Things were mostly better throughout junior high and high school, except the time as a 7th grader I was told all the 8th grade girls hated me. As a young adult, I experienced abandonment by people I thought were friends who had chosen to befriend others who were vocal about their hatred for me. And of course, the ‘no one likes you’ from someone I was committed to. For someone who once struggled to learn what ailed my inner child, all these memories of being hated flooded in when I opened myself to healing my inner child.
You might be thinking, geez, what’s wrong with this girl, why do people hate her so much? But that’s not how inner child work functions. The purpose of inner child work is to console her, comfort her, and tell her truth, not lies. What I have discovered is that even now as an adult, I feel judged and disliked. I fear putting myself out there too much because of judgement. That is my inner child coming out, and she is not wrong. She is acting based on experience. But the issue is that this does not benefit me as an adult and my inner child still aches from the past. I meditated on this, and below are the words that came during my inner child meditation. I would like to share with you as I feel others can relate and might need this message as well. Please feel free to use them if you find they fit in with where you are right now.
“Sweet girl, not everyone is going to like you, but you have to remember how much you’re loved. You are here for more than worrying what others think of you. You are loved. You are amazing. Shine your light. You are divinely created. Don’t focus your energy on those who don’t appreciate your value, but rather spend your energy on living your path and sharing your divine gifts with others. Shining your light, that’s what you are to do. For far too long you have let fear of judgement from others stand in your way. You don’t need to be scared anymore. You are doing what you are supposed to be doing and that is that.”
I do recommend exploring your inner child. Like me, you might think there isn’t anything to work on, or you might be fully aware of what needs to be addressed. Either way, I recommend looking into Tosha Silver’s book ($11.99 on Amazon) and/or author Louise Hay’s audio CD “Loving & Forgiving the Inner Child” ($5.99 on Amazon) to support you. It is truly such a relief to have finally confronted an issue that I hadn’t realized was affecting me so much into adulthood. Always remember that letting go of old ideas, beliefs, and memories makes room for more of what you truly desire.
Be love. Be light. Just Be.
About the Author: Serena James is a holistic healer and the author of Vibe Higher. She offers a variety of energy healing services and workshops to help individuals experience a life of love, abundance, and wellness as they were meant to.
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