The relationships you have with yourself and others is an obvious connection, but I often find relationship healing is needed between people and a concept.
When I say concept, I mean things like money, success, age, weight, addiction, and so on.
How you feel about certain things and the energetic connection you have with concepts can either support or hinder your growth. Relationships with concepts are often the catalysts that form your beliefs.
Empowering beliefs support your growth, your expansion, your awareness, and alignment with your soul mission. On the other hand, limiting beliefs hinder or halt your growth and keep you from fully stepping into your true power.
Relationships with concepts are not exclusively determined by your beliefs, but could include other factors as well like environment, programming, conditioning, expectations, or brainwashing. Whatever the root cause of your unhealthy relationship with a concept is not as important as actually working with the energy to improve your relationship.
Let’s take a look at many popular concepts I see come up in energy healing sessions.
You could have an addiction to almost anything. Addictions are perpetual habits that impede your quality of life. To heal your relationship with addiction is to overcome your addiction altogether. What I find most often to be the root cause of most addictions that cause bodily harm or violate the boundaries of other people are negative entities. Once the negative entities are released, the addiction is resolved. That might sound too simple, but it is what I have experienced and seen many times throughout my work. And truthfully, it is simple and very effective.
However, addiction can exist without the presence of negative entities, and it is through energy healing to determine and cleanse the root causes of the addiction.
You might not always be aware of an addiction. You could think the behavior is normal, especially if people around you behave similarly. You might not even think an addiction is detrimental if you’re able to handle your responsibilities and obligations just fine most of the time.
Addiction isn’t solely related to the use of drugs, medications, or substances to achieve a certain emotional state. You can be addicted to many things that aren’t ingestible or illegal. Here are some examples:
Fitness (not always a bad thing, but can be)
Other people’s problems
Few addictions could be considered helpful or beneficial. Addiction steals your power and keeps you from doing or experiencing things for which you were divinely designed.
An unhealthy relationship with aging is so common because there is so much societal programming around age. It is one of the most prominent relationships we have that is dictated by societal perception.
When your relationship with aging is strained, you could manifest society’s expectations in your own reality. For example, you’ve probably heard and even believe the following statements:
If you haven’t accomplished something by a certain age, you’re a failure, or at least, very far behind the pack.
At certain ages, things become much more difficult (like maintaining a healthy weight).
As you get older, your body doesn’t work as well as it used to.
You lose beauty and appeal as you age.
You’re too old to wear certain clothing or accessories.
You’re too old to start something new.
How does that person look so good/terrible for their age?
The saying you're only as old as you feel does have some validity to it. Your abilities, worth, and health become limited when your relationship with aging is detrimental. In contrast, when you have a healthy relationship with aging, you become limitless.
I have to start out by saying that your body is this amazingly beautiful machine that performs miracles by the minute. What isn’t there to love about your body? But even in all it’s glory, you might still feel dissatisfied with it, with how it looks, or how it works for you.
You might find yourself always wanting to improve something about your body and have difficulty fully appreciating it. You might compare it to other people’s bodies. You might feel like you’re always sick or hurt or tired and feel angry that your body can’t keep up with all the things your heart and mind want to do.
Many things can happen when your relationship with your body is disconnected:
Your soul might feel like a foreigner in this fleshy vehicle.
Your body will begin to adapt to your criticism.
You don’t know how to honor your body.
You don’t know how to nourish your body.
When you heal your relationship with your body, you have a deep appreciation for your body and intuitively know what it needs to thrive. It’s being comfortable in your own skin and beyond.
When something is off with you physically or emotionally, a diagnosis of a disease or illness can feel like a relief because now you have a label assigned to your symptoms. I have an issue with this- diagnoses does not address root cause and treatment usually only addresses symptoms.
I have another issue, too. Being labeled with a disease often perpetuates the symptoms of the disease. For example, if you were diagnosed with ADHD, your focus (and often other people’s focus) is on the more negative parts of ADHD not on the positive aspects. So with this label, you can explain away things like why you have a short attention span or why you become frustrated easily. The label is a constant reminder of your short-comings. Rarely is it celebrated that people diagnosed with ADHD are extremely creative, intelligent, and can be very successful when they do things they are passionate about.
Healing your relationship with your diagnosis allows you to not be defined by disease or illness.
Money is one of those concepts that tends to consume the thoughts and stresses of many people. You might always feel like you don’t have enough, you always want more of it, you’re scared of it, or you don’t feel responsible enough to use it wisely.
Then beyond about how you feel when you do or do not have money, there are all kinds of negative beliefs surrounding money, like it is greedy to have money or money is the root of all evil.
You could find yourself on the one hand constantly struggling to feel satisfied with your money situation, but on the other hand have a true disdain for money for how much it seems to rule your life. Those emotions are bit conflicting and send mixed signals to your higher self and the Universe. They wonder, do you like/want money, or no? I can’t figure it out!
When you use energy healing to help improve your relationship with money, your detrimental beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors are cleansed and shifted to align you with your truth and your desire. It gives you clarity on what is true about money and empowers you to use this energetic tool to your advantage. (Yes! Money is energy. Just like everything!)
You might be wondering how someone could have a detrimental relationship with success, but I’ve seen it many times.
Sure, there are people who might not desire to be successful, but in general, people do wish to experience success. (And for people who desire to not be successful, I would definitely recommend they heal their relationship with success!)
Success is part of a human’s innate need for survival, with the very basic function of success meaning to survive and thrive. There are so many different ways to be successful and the definition of success can vary from person to person. You can have success in your career, your community, your relationships, your goals and dreams, your health and wellness, and so on.
There are many signs your relationship with success needs healing:
You have no idea what your definition of success is.
You have no idea what success looks like for you.
You engage in self-sabotaging behaviors when life seems to be going too smoothly.
When life is going smoothly, you don’t trust it and are waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You are fearful of what would happen if you did reach your goals, like what would you have to sacrifice or what would others expect from you.
You doubt your ability to achieve or maintain success.
By your definition, you are successful but do not feel satisfied or joyful about it.
You desire success, but you are not ready for fame or recognition.
You are worried that people you love and care about will not be supportive of your success.
You know what success looks like for you, but despite all your efforts, you can never reach the level of success you strive for.
When you mend your relationship with success, you open yourself to experiencing the success you desire and embrace the path that is natural for you to get there.
One of the perpetual struggles of being human today is achieving and maintaining a healthy body weight. There are so many reasons that can contribute to unhealthy weight that aren’t just related to diet and exercise, but goes deeper into beliefs and protection. Although diet and exercise shouldn't be discounted entirely. Let’s look at each more closely.
Most of what you know about healthy eating are all blanket theories. These theories assume that they are true for everyone, meaning there are rules of thumb that apply to everyone. This is simply not true. Some people need meat more than other people do. Some people need carbs more than others.
What’s even more is that over-farming has greatly reduced the nutritional content in food. You need to eat about 8 times as many oranges today than you did in the 70s to match the nutritional value. You could have food sensitivities you didn’t even know about. How are you supposed to keep up with all the information?!
You might struggle with weight because you’re trying to cram your needs into a box that just isn’t a good fit for you. When you take an energetic approach to healing your diet with energy, you become intuitive about what your body needs and when.
Just like with diet, exercise is not one-size-fits-all either. You might be designed for intense workouts like HIIT, or you might be designed for something more calming like yoga. You could have more or less energy to expend than other people you know.
It’s frustrating when you exercise and don’t see the results you desire. Energy healing can help you discover what type of exercise is more in tune with your natural flow.
There are numerous detrimental beliefs you could have surrounding weight. These beliefs could also be tied to other types of relationships, but I’ll still share a couple examples.
You could have had a devastating experience (being called too skinny and told to eat a cheeseburger or being called too fat and told to go on a diet) that has affected your relationship with weight.
Then there’s one of my favorites, just wait until your 30 as the skinny 22 year-old me polished off a bag of Doritos. Hey, person, thanks for programming my mind to believe being skinny becomes impossible at a certain age!
When energetically working on your relationship with weight, it is helpful to identify and shift your detrimental beliefs.
You might be using your weight for protection. Remember when we talked about the proverbial brick wall in Healing Your Relationships with Other People? Whether you have a fear of being seen or are trying to protect yourself, that energetic fortress of protection can transform itself into physical poundage felt and seen on your body.
Through energy healing you can discover what your ideal weight is and what’s keeping you from achieving that ideal weight.
Discovering Which Relationships Need Healing
You might be wondering if you work on your relationship with yourself if it would even be necessary to work on a relationship with a concept. The short answer is it depends.
When I work with my clients, I find out what they are hoping to experience as a result of their session with me. I set an intention and will determine if there is a relationship that needs to be addressed.
You might know which relationships need healing, but energy healing tells us with certainty.
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About the Author: Hi, I'm Serena James! I'm a Soul Empowerment Guide passionate about helping people seeking more joy and prosperity in their lives to find it by working with their energy. I'm the owner of Just Be Energy Healing and author of the book Vibe Higher. Be sure to check out my Resources page to support you on your journey of self-discovery and living in alignment with your soul purpose.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease or illness. Any action you take as a result of this information is self-prescribed and your right to do so.