Updated: Dec 9, 2019
As I scroll through my newsfeed over the last month, I see a common theme: people are so over this year. Apparently this year was a huge disappointment for many, and they can't wait for the new year. For so many, a new year is a new beginning. But how exactly does a new year bring about change?
When the clock strikes midnight on January 1st, do all your problems, disappointments, heartaches, and irritations just disappear? Or is it possible if we don't do something about these things, they will creep into the new year with us? If you're like me, you think the latter is a more probable situation. We get to create our own reality. Some people actually think our reality is a mirror of ourselves. When you see something you don't like in your reality, it's time to make a change. Instead of relying on a calendar to bring about change, rely on yourself to make changes in your life.
Here are 7 things you can do to invest in yourself.
LOVE YOUR BODY
Take care if it, nurture it, appreciate it. Tell your body you love it. You know you're supposed to get plenty of rest, exercise, drink a lot of water, and eat nutritious foods. Do you do these things? I used to think YOLO meant I didn't have to exercise, it was OK to eat pizza and nachos 4 times a week, it's OK to get 5 hours of sleep a night. But I've learned after doing this for an extended period of time, it doesn't feel good. Not one bit. My body works hard for me. My body deserves better than this. Commit to loving your body and nurturing it through rest, exercise, hydration, and nutrition.
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
What do you want, need, aspire, desire? Write it down. One thing most successful people have in common is they write out their goals and dreams and watch them come true. Seriously. When writing out your goals, write as if you have already achieved it. For example, say "I live in my dream home" instead of "I will buy my dream home" or "I love my new car" instead of "I want a new car". Take it a step further by imagining what it will feel like when you achieve your goal. What will it smell like, look like, sound like, taste like? Consider using a journal to record your goals.
Some people do find it intimidating to write down their goals because they are scared to ask for what they want or worry they don't deserve it or are being too greedy. You should know that the only thing putting limits on your dreams is you. You should also know that you are absolutely worthy of asking for what you want and deserve to get it. If you want to double your income this year, write it down. If you want to triple your customer base, write it down. If you want to pay off your credit card, write it down. If you want to find a partner that treats you well, makes you laugh, and respects you, write it down. The possibilities are endless.
Whether it's fiction, non-fiction, self-help, or industry-specific, reading is still beneficial, even as an adult. According to LifeHack, reading provides mental stimulation, increases knowledge, and may even improve memory. With social media, most of us are reading articles throughout the day, but I still suggest reading actual books whether it is a physical or e-copy.
SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS
According to Parents Partner, quality time is when we are focused, intentional, and engaged. While you may see your friends and family throughout the week, seeing your friend at work or driving your child to and from practice isn't necessarily quality time. Quality time is about strengthening relationships, learning more about each other, and enjoying your time together. Quality time can be reading with your child, coffee with a friend, or lunch with your partner. I can't tell you exactly how often you need to schedule in quality time as everyone is different. Some people actually have Quality Time as their dominant Love Language, so the need for quality time will be greater than others. You can determine what works best for you and your circles.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND LOVE WHAT YOU DO
So many people complain about their jobs or workplaces. If you don't love it, why do you keep doing it? First, try changing your attitude. What are the positive aspects of your job? The people, the benefits, the outcomes of your work, the pay, the schedule, the flexibility, the professional development? If you cannot find anything to appreciate about your current job, or if the benefits do not outweigh the negatives, then it might be time to think about making a change. Don't commit yourself to being miserable. Invest in yourself by pursuing a career you love and that loves you back.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Take a look at who you associate with. Many people believe who you associate with is a direct reflection of yourself as over time you develop similarities in interests, aspirations, opinions, and behaviors. Invest in yourself by surrounding yourself with individuals who support you, who dare you to dream, who push you to be a better version of yourself, and who allow you to be yourself.
There are times when people we love and care for are struggling and need our love and support in which the following does not apply. If there is someone in your life who constantly has drama, is always gossiping about others, is jealous, or never seems to be happy for you, I strongly suggest limiting your time with them as these things can be contagious and drain you.
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
I have always believed we can't truly be of service to others if we don't take care of ourselves. It is not selfish to take care of yourself and to take care of your needs. Practice meditation, read a book, take a class to learn something new, pamper yourself, enjoy a relaxing bath, exercise, journal, whatever appeals to you. Allow time for yourself each day, even if it is only a few minutes.
What other ways do you plan to invest in yourself in the new year? Share in the comments below.
LifeHack. 10 Benefits of Reading: Why You Should Read Everyday http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/10-benefits-reading-why-you-should-read-everyday.html
Parents Partner. Quality Time vs. Quantity Time: what's more important? http://www.parentspartner.com/quality-time-vs-quantity-time-whats-most-important/
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About the Author: Serena James is a holistic healer and the author of Vibe Higher. She offers a variety of energy healing services and workshops to help individuals experience a life of love, abundance, and wellness as they were meant to.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease or illness. Any action you take as a result of this information is self-prescribed and your right to do so.