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Are Past Relationships Holding You Back?

Updated: Feb 5

It's February, the time of year where everything is red, pink, white, hearts, flowers, and candy. Love is in the air, right?

Well, not for everyone. This time of year can actually be difficult for many people, especially those who have been very hurt in relationships. More specifically, those who have been very hurt in past relationships AND still carrying the burden from those hurts.

past relationships holding you back

This is a real issue so many people face. How could you possibly forget the time your partner cheated on you? How do you recover from a manipulative romantic partner who diminished your self-worth? Relationship issues aren't only reserved for romantic partners either; relationship traumas with friends, families, and co-workers can also have a negative impact on your future. How do you fully recover from the time your friend betrayed you? What kind of long-term effects will you experience because of parents who never showed up for you? How are you supposed to conduct yourself in the workplace when someone is always out trying to get you?

Shaping the Future from the Past

Beliefs and expectations are heavily influenced by your experiences. If you have been hurt by others in the past, of course you will make decisions based on those experiences. Sometimes you might not even be aware how detrimental a past relationship could be on your present and future. You might continue to attract the same types of people into your life. You might create barriers to keep people to protect yourself from ever feeling hurt again. You might get to a point where you just don't trust people anymore- even yourself. You might be hard on yourself for getting into situations where someone disappoints you or hurts you again. It can be a vicious cycle.

But here's the thing: how can you move forward and experience something better if you are always looking back? Sometimes wanting to move forward or wanting to heal isn't enough. Sometimes talking about devastating experiences over and over again just keeps the issues alive and well. And sometimes focusing on what you don't want clears the path for you to experience what you don't want.

But what if I told you the beliefs and expectations you have about relationships were just energy, and if those beliefs and expectations aren't giving you what you truly desire, you can do something about it? They truly are.

Healing Relationship Energy

Energy can be shifted and changed, just like your beliefs and expectations. Energy healing can help clear out the "gunk" from these past relationships and past hurts that are no longer benefiting you. They can even help you clear out issues in your current relationships. Energy healing can help you let go and move forward so you can experience something more loving and joyful in your current or future relationships.

Energetic Cords

Relationship issues can often be tied back to energetic cords. Energetic cords are attachments between a person and something else, like another person, an animal, a place, even an experience.

Typically they are unseen, and mostly unnoticeable until you become aware of what is happening. Energetic cords allow you to sync up with what it is attached to. For example, you could still be energetically attached to an ex, a previous home, a place you’ve visited, or a traumatic experience and not even realize it. Similarly, you could have energetic cords with loved ones, people or places you admire, and fond memories.

Energetic cords can be beneficial, but some can be detrimental. If you are repeating the same negative relationship patterns, attracting similar negative relationships into your life, or finding it very difficult to move on from past relationships, a cord cutting would be very beneficial for you. These kinds of experiences would indicate a detrimental cord attachment that can be addressed energetically. Cutting these cords would help you to move forward physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

You Are Loved

What is most important to know is that you are loved. We all are. We are all deserving of loving relationships no matter where we are or who we are with. Energy healing is a very effective way to release past relationship gunk to help you move forward. It is very common for people to need that residual energy from past hurts to be released. You are not weird and you are not alone.


About the Author: Serena James is a holistic healer and the author of Vibe Higher. She offers a variety of energy healing services and workshops to help individuals experience a life of love, abundance, and wellness as they were meant to.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure, or prevent any disease or illness. Any action you take as a result of this information is self-prescribed and your right to do so.

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